This is just a small glimpse into the journey of one adoption through the eyes of all involved. It brings light to something that I hold precious to me in so many different ways. It is seriously amazing! (I also spied someone in this video that I hold very dear to my heart, but I won't tell you who it is because I cherish our relationship more than name dropping, ha ha!)
Just some thoughts that come from my heart tonight!
First and foremost, I am so very grateful for Hayden's amazing birth mom. I think of her every single day. She has given Kyle and I the most amazing gift in the world... Hayden. I will be eternally grateful to her for that and I think she knows that too. :) My true miracle child who has brought nothing but joy into my world since the day that he was placed into my arms.
Second of all, I know that his birthmother feels like we were a gift to her because she wanted to give Hayden more than she could give him... a mother and a father. I know that Hayden is and will always be grateful for that gift as well. His birthmother often expresses her gratitude to us for who we are and what we mean to Hayden and we always feel the same about her. She is a true gift! I'm grateful that we will always have that wonderful bond.
Third, I am so glad that my birthmother was selfless enough to give me more and give me my two amazing parents... a true, amazing gift indeed! On a side note, I identified with the baby girl most in this video because I am the living example of the gift of adoption and what a miracle it truly is and can be throughout a person's life. My birthmother gave me life and she also gave me more. She gave me my family!
And last, but definitely not least, I am so grateful to my parents and the gift that I was given by having them in all parts of my life. They taught me and helped me to become who I am today. I know that I was meant to be in their family and I will never be able to express my gratitude to my birth mother for being courageous enough to give me my parents. I needed my parents at birth and I still need them now. every. single. day. I am blessed to have an amazing relationship and bond with both of them. But most of all, I am blessed because they are my family forever. Families are forever. My greatest gift indeed.
After all of the heartache that Kyle and I have been through this past year with failed adoption after failed adoption... I still find solace in the true miracle that is adoption and I know that our time will come. I have faith that my Heavenly Father knows me. He knows my family. He knows our next child and He knows when the time for him to come into our family will be.
I also know that when our next child comes... at that very moment of placement, there will be so much joy and so much sorrow, all at the same time. Joy for both parties in the gift that has just been given through adoption and sorrow on both sides as well. A loss still occurs at that time and it's hard not to feel that heartache, even as the adoptive mother who has just received the biggest gift ever... a new baby, swaddled in my arms. It is a bittersweet moment for everyone involved and that gift definitely comes with a price of sacrifice. A sacrifice that I will be eternally grateful for.
The Gift from Jared Fadel on Vimeo.
My last thought comes from watching the sweet little boy at the end of this video. I see pure love and joy on his face for his new baby sister. All I can think of is Hayden and what a gift "his new baby" (what he asks Heavenly Father for every single day) will be to him. I can't wait to share that moment with him. It will be like stepping back in time and reliving Hayden's placement and the miraculous gift that he was to us. I am so grateful to know that I will be able to share that moment with him as well!
Adoption is a wonderful gift to every single person involved. A very difficult and miraculous gift. I'm grateful to this specific birth mother for sharing her experience so that others can get a glimpse into the world of adoption. This is a very wonderful part of our life. So much of this video reminds me of our experience when we adopted Hayden. What a special time in our life. I'm glad we were able to share it with his birth mom. I'm also looking forward to the day that we get to do again... soon, I hope! :)
KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
Adrienne
